Follow up discussion with Frustrated Parent:
Everything you said DrTekemia Dorsey was mentioned at a Executve Functions Workshop I attended last week. I was the only black, parent from the city at that workshop. The presenters clearly stated “our” kids do not have the necessary tools to succeed in college. This audience was white suburbia and they are creating strategies to ensure that “our” children don’t fall through the cracks.
Reply from Dr. Dorsey
Frustrated Parent so do you think they were attempting to blow smoke over the issue? I know in our school systems, white kids, Hispanic kids, Asian kids, and Black kids alike are struggling with the new curriculum implemented and teachers are just as lost because they have not gotten a chance to truly get a handle on it. I know teachers continue to do their best regardless of their targeted audience and not to make excuses but their hands are just as tied as much as the parents.
Reply from Frustrated Parent
I think when you have a child struggling every week and a parent showing concern, you shouldn’t hide under a rock and don’t sit down to discuss strategies. In my mind, she sat back and watched her get that C. I’m not saying she needed to handhold Nia, but I do think a bright child struggling in one subject in an important year of her education makes her teacher look sketchy. For five weeks Nia earned an A. When her grades on tests started to slip, I met the teacher at pick up time and every week, “it was something Nia was doing”. By ninth week, I started calling the principal for a meeting, so they both knew I was concerned. By the time Nia did poorly on the Unit Test, percentage wise, it was a wrap. She couldn’t recover from it. So at what point should the teacher have stepped in to look at each of the common core objectives from week to week and determine where Nia’s specific problems were and help her address them? Ignoring me has only exacerbated the problem in my mind and I’m angry about that.
Reply from Dr. Dorsey
Yep i agree ignoring or being to busy is never a good look. So let’s talk solutions vs what cannot be undone. I wouldn’t stop reaching out to the principal and/or teacher, it may even be helpful to have a Round Table meeting with all her teachers as they all could provide insight across the board as they see it (for now its a Math problem, tomorrow could be Math and Reading and next week, Math, Reading and Science) regarding Nia. Additionally, are there any before or after school programs (free) available provided through the school? Is it possible to begin a Peer to Peer Mentor for Nia that can help her after school during lunch, etc? Are their Volunteer Tutors in the school that could be available to Nia sometime before or after school? Yes, be angry (do some Air Boxing Shadow moves to release that stress :)) but channel that energy into viable solutions that will benefit Nia in the long run (which I am sure you are already doing) and also don’t be mad for so long…it tends to turn up the negativity factor and ruin the relationship more than it has too besides it is about the kid anyway….not the adults